10 Things Every Couple Should Know Before Starting Wedding Planning

Planning a wedding is one of the most exciting journeys you'll take together as a couple—but it can also be overwhelming if you're not sure where to begin. Before you start picking flowers or diving into Pinterest boards, there are a few key things you should know to make the process smoother, more enjoyable, and less stressful.

Here are 10 things every couple should know before they start planning their big day:

1. Set a Realistic Budget First

Before anything else—before the dress, the venue, or even the guest list—you need to know how much you’re comfortable spending. Sit down together (and potentially with any family members contributing financially) and decide on a total budget. This number will shape every decision that follows, so be honest and realistic.

💡 Pro Tip: Allocate a buffer of 5-10% for unexpected costs. Trust us, they always pop up.

2. Your Guest List Drives Your Costs

The size of your guest list affects nearly every part of your budget—from catering and seating to invitations and rentals. Before you fall in love with a cozy venue or book a caterer, get a rough idea of how many people you’d like to invite.

💬 Ask yourselves: Do you want an intimate celebration or a large gathering?

3. It’s Okay to Have Different Priorities

You may care most about the flowers, while your partner dreams of a live band. That’s normal! Make a list of your top 3 priorities each, and work together to build a celebration that reflects what matters most to both of you.

❤️ Wedding planning is a team effort—compromise is key.

4. The Planning Timeline Matters

Depending on your ideal wedding date, you may need to start planning 12–18 months in advance, especially if you're aiming for a popular venue or date. Don’t underestimate how quickly vendors book up!

📅 Not sure where to start? A wedding planner or downloadable checklist can help map out your timeline.

5. Pinterest Is a Tool, Not a Rulebook

Pinterest and Instagram are great for inspiration—but they can also set unrealistic expectations. Use them as guides, not gospel. Remember: Your wedding doesn’t need to look like someone else’s to be beautiful and meaningful.

🌿 Focus on what’s personal, not what’s trending.

6. Vendors Make or Break the Experience

The people you hire will directly affect your wedding day—so choose carefully. Read reviews, ask for referrals, and make sure your vendors are responsive and professional. Don't just look at their work—make sure you vibe with them, too.

💬 Good communication is just as important as talent.

7. It’s Easy to Get Overwhelmed—Have a System

From managing contracts to guest RSVPs, wedding planning involves a lot of moving parts. Use a wedding planning app, spreadsheet, or hire a planner to keep everything organized.

🧠 Your sanity will thank you later.

8. You Don’t Have to Follow Tradition

Want to skip the bouquet toss? Don’t feel like wearing white? Go for it. There are no rules—only what feels right for you. Focus on what makes your day feel true to your relationship.

✨ This is your celebration, not a performance.

9. A Wedding Planner Can Be a Game-Changer

Even if you don’t hire a full-service planner, having a day-of coordinator or a professional to help guide you can ease stress and help avoid costly mistakes. Think of it as an investment in your peace of mind.

💡 Especially helpful if you're planning a wedding at a private property or non-traditional venue.

10. It’s About the Marriage, Not Just the Wedding

In the whirlwind of planning, it’s easy to lose sight of the reason you’re doing this in the first place—because you love each other. Take time to nurture your relationship during the process. The best weddings are the ones where the love between the couple shines through.

💖 Keep the focus on what matters most: your journey together.

Final Thoughts

Wedding planning should be a joyful time filled with love, laughter, and just a little bit of champagne. By starting with the right mindset and a solid plan, you’ll set yourselves up for a celebration that feels authentic, organized, and unforgettable.

Need help getting started? Let’s chat about how we can take the stress out of planning your perfect day. 💌